We need to be careful not to dismiss other people too quickly. It is super easy to send valuable messages through the wrong channels.
Consider the Bible. The Old Testament contains hundreds of stories. Primitive tales, fantastical tales, and thousands of details. There are errors in translation and in transcription, errors in omission and commission, and finally also misinterpretations are always possible - so many flaws.... that it's easy to dismiss the whole book at once. After all, it is just one book.
And what a mistake to make! At a minimum, both the Old and New Testaments are records of humanity's thoughts about God. Can any one of us safely dismiss that record, when so many of us hold a strong opinion, be it yea or nay? If your father is a priest, and you don't believe in God, then your family has a problem, regardless of who is right.
And at the core, it may one day turn out that the Bible contains a record of humanity's conversation with God. This is still an active global debate, although no side seems to be winning. There ought to be a better way to handle this debate, so that families and cultures can thrive while not knowing the answer. In fact, it's easy to show that, objectively speaking, neither "side" has ever really offered conclusive arguments, in either direction. Otherwise, they would have convinced the other side.
The flaws in your own team's messaging may not be as momentous as those of the Bible. Yet still, they are holding you back from settling important questions, feeling good together, and synthesising many variables into one shared vision. It is critically important to study the communication paradigms that exist within your team, and to make intelligent changes to the code. That is something that can be done, and it must be done thoughtfully, as all of us know very well the intensity of resistance to change in our long-held practices or beliefs.